Are 'White' people better?

For those of you familiar with my writing, you will know about my past,

I was born in a random country, raised in another, and ethnically I am from an entirely different country.

Having been raised with different languages and cultures from early on, by the time I reached puberty, I often felt displaced; As I grew and entered adulthood, those feelings were settled by my lack of need to define who I was in a way that segregated me.

I decided that being something, no one else has the option to be, eg: saying I'm 'Sudanese' is a form of segregation in itself. The fact that only people who possess certain DNA (something they were born with and have no control over whatsoever) is a divider amongst people.

With this way of thinking I was able to break many social and racial barriers and approach people I would have been too afraid to approach in the past, but what I didn't realize about Sudan, is that unlike the UK, not everyone who did not feel the same way about racial equality had to keep their mouths shut...

As I applied for a teaching job which I was more than qualified for, the principal of the school laughed hysterically in my face because I expected the salary he advertised for... He replied with 'That salary is for a white person' - I was puzzled, and to my confusion he simply continued 'You know, with white skin and blonde hair'.

So is it really possible that the white supremacy,  ideology exists openly in Sudan, when it comes to employability?

 

The only difference between the 'white, with blonde hair and blue eyes' (which for the record better fits a Polish person rather than an English) and I is the colour of their skin and their racial heritage.  We were educated the same, in fact I'm pretty sure that being 'white' overrode the need for education past high school for this employer.      
                                
My racial heritage is Sudanese and I can tell you first hand, I had no 'innate' knowledge of the Arabic language or culture when I moved back here a year ago. It would be naïve to assume that someone raised in one country has the same values and ethics as someone raised in another - Chinese people have very strong work ethics and work much more than they rest when compared to Europeans. The same goes when comparing Europeans to Sudanese... But to assume that a European raised in China will have a lower work ethic because they are 'European' in race seems a little bit ignorant.
                                                
The trouble is you hardly ever hear Europeans being turned down in China... or anywhere in the working world, so does the white superiority ideology still dominate the working world?

 

 

'Social Clash' Why do People Deactivate their Facebook Accounts?

Ok, so this is an interesting topic

More so because almost inevitably, they will reactivate it again at some point.

What is it about facebook that makes some people so emotional? And why is it that some people can sign in, laugh a bunch, and sign out again - while others sign in, find nothing new and are left feeling miserable by this?

Its interesting to say the least, however, as I am not a psychiatrist, nor have I researched this topic I can only offer my own opinion based on my own experiences using the social platform.

Facebook offers a wide range of abilities, some of which allow the user full control whereas other are completely disempowering, a little like real life.

For example, a user can privately message another, or publicly write on their wall - however the receiver is then free to do as they please with this information , much like a real life conversation - once you tell someone something, whether in private or in a public place, it is then up to that person to do as they please with it.

The only problem with this being online is that different people interpret Facebook 'information' differently, emotionally attentive people use real social rules when accessing the site, such as always replying to messages, specially now that people know when you have read their messages, keeping their passwords secure, logging off after using the site to make sure anything on their page is not seen by anyone other than them etc


 However other types of people see facebook purely as an 'online' interaction, anything shared on the site is not important as it is not 'real' communication. These people tend to be the ones who are never really bothered by the site. They use it for entertainment, news and to network - never to express emotions or any life changing experiences.

These people don't see a problem ignoring messages, not liking wall posts posted for them, and ignoring even messages written publicly, because again, this is just an online platform, if someone had something to say that was important they would contact them in a 'real' way.

For the emotionally attentive, having a message read and ignored is like 'someone walking out of a room in the middle of you starting a conversation with them' - as a friend of mine so nicely put it. She plays by the real social rules, whereas the person she messaged sees facebook as simply an online platform - and here comes the clash. Feeling ignored is upsetting, specially when in real life that person is very nice to you... it gets confusing why that person ignored you online but is so nice in real life... And when something gets to you this much, you end up deciding to take a break from it... only to come back because you never really figured out why it upset you.

The real issue here is, facebook has not yet been defined - is it a real platform or simply a virtual online community? There are many other factors which effect peoples decisions to leave the site, but for the purposes of keeping this short I will keep it at the social clash.

 

Is Hollywood love real?

As I'm getting older many things are becoming more apparent, with the most prominent thing being 'Love'.

After wading through countless online/offline articles about love, - the science of it, the emotions, the joy and the tragedy.. (and also the manipulation) I think my thought process' have come to a final halt, where I am so confused that I have decided to just stop thinking about it...

But is it even possible to not think about this concept when the very basic relationships which further our generations rely solely on it?

Perhaps its time to break down this concept. According to Hollywood, boy meets girl, she doesn't care, he makes her like him, then he messes up, she gets sad, then he makes it up to her, and they live happily ever after.

Hollywood marriages don't really last very long in real time. But as most of us have experienced this kind of love, in that exact or a very similar series, it would be silly to disregard it and mark it 'unreal'.

Perhaps the key is in marriage. Perhaps the real question is, does Hollywood love work in marriage? And for that my answer has become, no.

When it comes to Love in the Hollywood fashion, its about looking amazing, sweeping that person off their feet and expressing your feelings verbally as often as possible in the most elaborate ways. This is very sweet but it doesn't last long and often leads to heartache and bi-polar love. When you enter a marriage using Hollywood love, you will quickly learn that a successful marriage must morph love into something entirely different, in order to stay with your partner you must love them using all of the 'love' types you have experienced in your lifetime - combine the way you love your parents with the way you love your siblings, add a little passion and you will learn something new.

 Love has now morphed itself from saying 'I love you soooo much' to doing - picking up the towel he always leaves on the floor, or not getting mad at her for yelling at you when she is clearly PMSing.

Unless you are willing to let go of all of the expectations that come with the Hollywood love for your marriage, chances are you will be very disappointed.

I'm starting to think that the main reason for marriage failure is Hollywood convincing people that marriage and passionate love are the same thing - so people enter marriage with all of these expectations which just don't exist.