As I'm getting older many things are becoming more apparent, with the most prominent thing being 'Love'.
After wading through countless online/offline articles about love, - the science of it, the emotions, the joy and the tragedy.. (and also the manipulation) I think my thought process' have come to a final halt, where I am so confused that I have decided to just stop thinking about it...
But is it even possible to not think about this concept when the very basic relationships which further our generations rely solely on it?
Perhaps its time to break down this concept. According to Hollywood, boy meets girl, she doesn't care, he makes her like him, then he messes up, she gets sad, then he makes it up to her, and they live happily ever after.
Hollywood marriages don't really last very long in real time. But as most of us have experienced this kind of love, in that exact or a very similar series, it would be silly to disregard it and mark it 'unreal'.
Perhaps the key is in marriage. Perhaps the real question is, does Hollywood love work in marriage? And for that my answer has become, no.
When it comes to Love in the Hollywood fashion, its about looking amazing, sweeping that person off their feet and expressing your feelings verbally as often as possible in the most elaborate ways. This is very sweet but it doesn't last long and often leads to heartache and bi-polar love. When you enter a marriage using Hollywood love, you will quickly learn that a successful marriage must morph love into something entirely different, in order to stay with your partner you must love them using all of the 'love' types you have experienced in your lifetime - combine the way you love your parents with the way you love your siblings, add a little passion and you will learn something new.
Love has now morphed itself from saying 'I love you soooo much' to doing - picking up the towel he always leaves on the floor, or not getting mad at her for yelling at you when she is clearly PMSing.
Unless you are willing to let go of all of the expectations that come with the Hollywood love for your marriage, chances are you will be very disappointed.
I'm starting to think that the main reason for marriage failure is Hollywood convincing people that marriage and passionate love are the same thing - so people enter marriage with all of these expectations which just don't exist.
After wading through countless online/offline articles about love, - the science of it, the emotions, the joy and the tragedy.. (and also the manipulation) I think my thought process' have come to a final halt, where I am so confused that I have decided to just stop thinking about it...
But is it even possible to not think about this concept when the very basic relationships which further our generations rely solely on it?
Perhaps its time to break down this concept. According to Hollywood, boy meets girl, she doesn't care, he makes her like him, then he messes up, she gets sad, then he makes it up to her, and they live happily ever after.
Hollywood marriages don't really last very long in real time. But as most of us have experienced this kind of love, in that exact or a very similar series, it would be silly to disregard it and mark it 'unreal'.
Perhaps the key is in marriage. Perhaps the real question is, does Hollywood love work in marriage? And for that my answer has become, no.
When it comes to Love in the Hollywood fashion, its about looking amazing, sweeping that person off their feet and expressing your feelings verbally as often as possible in the most elaborate ways. This is very sweet but it doesn't last long and often leads to heartache and bi-polar love. When you enter a marriage using Hollywood love, you will quickly learn that a successful marriage must morph love into something entirely different, in order to stay with your partner you must love them using all of the 'love' types you have experienced in your lifetime - combine the way you love your parents with the way you love your siblings, add a little passion and you will learn something new.
Love has now morphed itself from saying 'I love you soooo much' to doing - picking up the towel he always leaves on the floor, or not getting mad at her for yelling at you when she is clearly PMSing.
Unless you are willing to let go of all of the expectations that come with the Hollywood love for your marriage, chances are you will be very disappointed.
I'm starting to think that the main reason for marriage failure is Hollywood convincing people that marriage and passionate love are the same thing - so people enter marriage with all of these expectations which just don't exist.
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